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When is Your Ex Just Your Ex?!?!?

Have you ever wandered about that HS Beau that either "got away", or simply went off to college seperate from yourself? Or maybe it was the handsome/gorgeous lifeguard at the beach in the summer that you just never quite had the nerve to speak to. I, like most southerners, love to have large groups of friends. Everytime I go somewhere I'm stopping to hold a conversation with someone, whether its my local mailman, or the teen making my subway. I have many friends and half are ex beaus. Im entering into my thirties and as I look back at some of my past relationships and how the dynamics of each were so incrediabley different I often find myself pondering the question, is it really over? why do I think of this person, why do i feel the need to call him oppossed to one of my gossipy, but very loving girlfriends for advice or even comfort. I often wonder am I sending the wrong message or are we really "just friends". Like today for example,I had a very nerve racking doctors appoinment, the minute, and I mean the very minute I walked out the door I picked up my phone and text my ex. What the hell is that? So my question and thought for the day is that do we have a common bond with our ex, or are we still holding some extractive emotional bond to this person that we have not figured out or let go. Should you stay as you are with these relationships or should you politely move on. And to complicate things a little more if you are in a comitted relationship at the present time and your spouse disagrees do you continue this relationship and try to get the two to meet and also become friends. In a perfect world a woman could have her cake, and eat it to and not get the jiggly ass to go with it.