What's Mine is NOT Yours
By Tolani Osan for BounceBack.com
While you remain blissfully unmarried, you'll be happy to know that some things you are not required to share with your significant other. Good news, huh? Whether you're into sharing or not, you're entirely entitled to set ground rules when it comes to certain things and what's more, it'll likely yield a healthier and more mature relationship. Here are just five (I am sure there are more) things you should not share with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
This is a tricky one, especially if you've got joint expenses like a pet, bills or even an apartment. So before you talk about any plans to share expenses, consider first that money is one of the leading causes of divorce in America today. Ask yourself why. Oh, you're not married? So, why bother with one of the most stressful issues married couples deal with. While sharing money isn't a definitive "no can do," it's something to be carefully examined and not rushed into.
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If you're young and in love then you're probably thinking that your significant other volunteering their password is the best way to gain trust. No - not unless they've violated before; in that case, it's one of the first things I'd tell you to do. You may or may not have anything to hide. Your inbox could consist of scoops on the latest Idol outcast, but it's your right to keep it to yourself.
3. Facebook Account
No, not facebook passwords, but facebook accounts. You probably wouldn't believe it if I told you but there are actually some couples out there who have joint facebook or other social networking accounts. Gag, right? It's more harmful than one would think. What you're telling the world is that you're one person. Social networks are meant to substantiate identity. The healthiest relationships are those made up of two individuals.
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4. A Best Friend
Having mutual friends is ordinary, but if you both set your stakes in the same best friend, issues can arise. Trio outings can be fun and dandy, but during arguments things can get competitive. Going to the same person for comfort or a venting session could leave the third party in an awkward situation. You may even force them to take sides! Then you've turned a tiny argument into World War III. Have your mutual friends, but if at all possible, have your own best friends or leave the one best friend out of it.
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5. Conversations about Your Ex
Hey, let the past be the past. Easier said than done, of course, but unrelenting conversations about your ex, whether positive or negative, can drive a wedge between you and yours. You're in a new relationship now, let go of the past and make the most of this one. If you can't, then you probably shouldn't be a new relationship.
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No worries, not everything is off limits. Couples who share everyday things like razors and toothbrushes find it completely normal and not damaging to their relationship at all. Sharing allows you to open up to the other in unspoken ways and can only add to a relationship. Just the same, setting your boundaries fosters respect of the other individual also adding to the relationship.
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