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    Spanking linked to more aggression in kids

    Spanking your child has long-term effects on their development, says a new research review. (Thinkstock)Spanking or slapping your child has long-term, harmful effects on their development, according to a new review of 20 years of research.

    Over the past two decades, research has increasingly found links between such "everyday" types of physical punishment and higher levels of child aggression, according to the review. In fact, no studies have found this type of child discipline to predict a positive long-term effect.

    "I think it's important for parents to understand that although physical punishment might get a child to do something in the immediate situation, there are many side effects that can develop over the long term," said co-author Joan Durrant, a child clinical psychologist at Family Social Sciences at the University of Manitoba in Canada.  

    "For example, the more often a child sees a parent respond to conflict or frustration with slapping or spanking, the more likely that child will do the same when confronting their own conflicts," Durrant said.

    The review is published today (Feb. 6) in the Canadian Medical Association Journal.

    Some parents still use spanking for discipline

    One recent poll found that 22 percent of parents reported being "very likely" to spank their children, but most said they disciplined their kids in other ways, by taking away privileges or putting them in "time out."

    In one U.S. study, researchers looked at 2,400 mothers who spanked their 3-year-olds twice the previous month, and found that children had an increased risk for higher levels of aggression when they were 5 years old.

    "In the U.S., physical punishment is such an entrenched part of the culture that virtually no one has experienced growing up without it," Durrant said. "This situation makes it difficult for parents to visualize raising a child without it."

    Durrant also pointed out that a major factor could be that some parents have little knowledge or understanding of why children behave like they do.

    "They are more likely to believe that their child is being defiant or intentionally bad, but in most cases, children are simply doing what is normal for their development," she said. 

    Start early with positive discipline

    Based on years of research, however, more and more doctors are encouraging parents to discipline their children with positive, nonviolent approaches.

    "Parents should start out really young — as early as 12 months old," said Kimberly Sirl, a clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children's Hospital, who was not involved with the research.

    "Kids have to learn how to cope with frustration, how to share and how to be patient," Sirl said. "Parents teach them how to do that."

    For example, Sirl said that toddlers say no to everything, so the best thing to do when they're acting out is either ignore them briefly (for roughly 10 seconds) or redirect their negative behavior.

    "If you want to encourage good behavior, provide them with reward or praise," she said.

    Instead of saying, "do this [be]cause I told you so," Sirl said, it's best to explain to kids why there are rules.

    "We should let them know that grownups have to follow rules too," she said. "Essentially, time out for grownups is called jail."

    Pass it on: Physically disciplining children is linked with higher levels of child aggression.

    This story was provided by MyHealthNewsDaily, a sister site to LiveScience. Follow MyHealthNewsDaily on Twitter @MyHealth_MHND. Find us on Facebook.

     
    • Ken  •  Woodstock, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      It's not the hitting that is necessary or not necessary. That's a red herring. I'd be living in a Palm Springs mansion now if I had a dollar for every time I've seen a parent threaten a misbehaving child in public and then NOT CARRY OUT THE THREAT! Last year, I was eating in a restaurant and a child was acting out. The mother told the child, "If you do that again, I am going to take you home." Sure enough, the child acted out again, the mother picked the child up, apologized to the server, paid the bill, and left without getting the meal she was paying for. Several people applauded and there was a buzz of approving conversation at the tables all around where I was sitting. That mother's behaviour was noticed and approved precisely because she drew the line, laid down the consequences, and then followed through -- and yes, that is a very rare phenomenon. I'll leave it to others to analyze WHY it's rare, although I certainly have my own theories.
      • outspoken 3 months ago
        I agree, I see it with my sister and her husband. Rarely is my niece's bad behaviour punished. All day I'll hear, "Stop it or you're going to your room." She is 99.9% of the time never sent to her room and the bad behaviour doesn't stop. Ruins my day and really don't want my child around my niece because of this. My sister is forever mad at her daughter because she won't listen.
        Our cousin and my sister live close to each other. One day my cousin's children were getting a bath at the end of the day and my niece wanted one too. Their moms were at the store and I told my niece to wait until her mom got back because she had no pj's to change into (My sister was back about 5 minutes later). I tried explaining to my niece to just wait a few minutes to see what her mom wanted to do. Reasoning with her didn't work. My niece had a temper tantrum from hell. I picked her up and put her in another room for her to have it. I don't want my child seeing it. On the way to the other room my niece was kicking the air, kicked me hard in the shin, almost kicked her younger sister in the head and what did my sister do? Tell me her daughter could've wore one of our cousin's children's pjs. Nothing was done about the temper tantrum. My sister can't figure out why her daughter is so bad and her husband (niece's dad) wants to take her to a doctor to figure out the problem and possibly meds.
      • lee 3 months ago
        to ken, thank you for the wonderful example of why you don't have to spank your child. I never make a threat I'm not prepared to carry out.
        I constanty see parents making that threat, "if you don't behave we are going home," only in those situations, the child usually responds saying "I wanna go home, home home home..." And then the mother actually refuses to take the child home, when clearly that is why they are misbehaving to begin with.

        following through is good, listening to your kids helps as well.
      • outspoken 3 months ago
        The times my sister has put my niece in her room, she'll throw everything she can pick up across the room. All my sister does is yell at her more. Personally I think a swat on the butt is in order then.
    • JOHN G  •  Pickering, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      Talk about a topic that will stir up conversation.

      I've read some of the comments and being a parent myself and having seen what my parents did to correct their children and having worked in a public recreation centre for ten years I can honestly say I've seen a lot.

      1. There is nothing wrong with spanking a child...properly. My parents did it, their parents did it and their parents parents did it. No violent tendencies came from ANY of those kids and we are talking generations.
      2. Following through on what you say to your kid is the most important thing to do when raising a kid. If you don't follow through and stick to your guns then you the parent will become the one with emotional instability when your kid is the one throwing everything they can find across the room because you sent them to their room for misbehaving...see comment below.
      3. In the 40's 50's and 60's people more readily used physical correction methods then they do today. As these correction methods have been used less and less you will notice that society has regressed more and more into an entitlement like attitude.
      4. My sister is the first in our family to not use spanking as a method for discipline. She is also the only one in our family who has a child who runs crazy, recklessly and never listens to anyone and does whatever she likes. The worst thing that happens to her is that she gets a timeout. When she gets older and does something stupid and ends up in jail for being reckless and not following the rules (laws) because she wasn't shown that breaking rules has consequences when she was younger....well...you see my point.

      Now...before the crazy people on the internet classify me as something I am not..... I don't spank my kid daily basis and I use different techniques to discipline her and show her the reason why what she did was wrong. As she gets older and knows more about what she can and can't do there is less of that need to discipline. But there are times when a spanking is a good thing. See reason two above, if you tell your kid you're going to spank them...follow through.

      That being said, not all parents nurture their kids. My parents did. They spanked, but they didn't go yelling and freaking out about it. They would stop us doing what we were doing, spank our bottom (in private away from everyone else) and tell us why what we did was wrong. The problem with this study is the question is....Do you spank your kid, does your kid act out aggressively later in life. If you aggressively spank....that is the result you will receive. It's common sense.
      • Mike and Casey 3 months ago
        this is the most logical comment on here. Thank you.
      • Deborah Tombs 3 months ago
        agreed
      • Sam 3 months ago
        I agree with it all... Me and all my siblings were brought up in a house hold with discipline.. we all turned out to be very responsible adults with very well behaved children.. I have cousins though who were broght up in a house hold with not eve time outs as a form of discipline... and well, needles to say they turned out completly opposite from me and my siblings... dont anyone get all in my face about how thats just a single case.. and it is, but it also goes a long way to prove that if you are tought there are no consequenses to your actions, why the hell should you behave in the first place?
        One also may ask why on earth kids are behaving so badly these days... well its exactly that... they have never been tough there are and always will be consequences to their actions, wether its good or bad...
        What people need to realize is that spanking a child for doing something like lighting things on fire is not so terrible... but what they most likely should be learning, is that if you do not reinforce good behavior with good consequences.. you may as well just not parent your kids... Children need both good and bad reinforcement to learn the reality of both good and bad consequences, thus growing and forming into a responsable and iteligent adult knowing that if they do something wrong, something bad will most like come of it... and if they do something good, something good will come of it... the lack of discipline is just as bad as abusing a child!
    • DJ BobbyB  •  Philadelphia, United States  •  3 months ago
      What a bunch of BS..spanking was the way I was taught to do right rather than wrong. Moreover I believe that the problem with todays youth is that some parents do not know how to be a parent or doing they do a lousy job at parenting.
    • Joey  •  3 months ago
      I was beaten as a child and I was the most gentle soul as a child and still am.. Even as a child I felt sorry for children that were mistreated, it had the reverse affect on me, I would never hurt anything with a heartbeat! I don't believe in corporal punishment for anyone but do believe in discipline. I am so sick of the kids nowadays .. filled with disrespect and ill mannered. Parents are not teaching morals nor basic good manners anymore.. YOUR KIDS ARE UNLIKEABLE... and it is all your fault. Not hitting does not mean no discipline!
      • Peter 3 months ago
        hey joey - do you package that stuff and sell it as fertilizer??
      • Joey 3 months ago
        You are the epitomy of IGNORANCE.... You should be packaged and thrown in the pile of shit that is sky high in stinking Brazil... You were most likely beaten as a child but the one that turned out in need of serious mental help!
    • axle  •  Swift Current, Saskatchewan  •  3 months ago
      Well I haven't read the article, but I don't have to, I'm 18 years old and have three big brothers (26,28, and 32) we where all spanked and we all turned out great. My brothers never beat on each other or on me, and we all thank our parents regularly for spanking us. I'm sure I'd be the biggest brat if my parents didn't put me in my place. I will always cherish the times right after a spanking when my father would hold me and cry with me.
    • rageagaintsthemachine  •  Edmonton, Alberta  •  3 months ago
      As usual more pop psycology bullshyte I was spanked by my parents ocasionaly when I messed up real bad so i knew that that behaviour was unacceptable and never did it again and lets be clear here there is a world of differance between spanking your child and beating your child.I'm not violent or agressive as a matter of fact people who know me will laugh at me some times because depending on the way I dress I look like some bad #$%$ biker from hell yet I'll go out of my way to avoid stepping on a bug.As a father I've spanked my children on occasion while they were growing up and they are perfectly fine and healthy induviduals.The one time i actualy spanked my daughter she laughed at me she now has two lovley little girls of her own and is an excellent mother.Any REAL parent will tell you that there are times when every child needs a bit of a butt tweaking to show there are consequences to our actions.Mabey a smack or two on the but today will save them from a prision sentence tommorrow especially in this country when just saying the wrong thing can land your #$%$ in jail
    • ELLI  •  3 months ago
      Not too long ago my daughter came home from school, she did her homework and it was time to do her chores. She said she wasn't doing it (sweep the kitchen floor) because she had rights.So we sat down and she explained that her teacher told the class that your parents cannot spank you or force you to something you dont want to do. I asked her if the teacher told them about responsibilty she said no. Did she teach you about my rights and resonsibiltys as a parent. I told her as a parent by law I have to supply her with three healthy meals a day and give her a warm dry place to sleep. I told her that means three bowls of veggies and I can go to your room and take everything out TV,stereo toys and even her bed because her room was warm and dry. She said they didnt tell her that. I said ask your teacher about it. The next day she came home in tears, I asked her whats wrong. She told me she tried to bring up parents rights and was told to sit and be quiet. My daughter tried again and was told to leave the room and wait in the hall. the teacher came out a short time later to take her to the office. On the way the teacher said who told you about this garbage. My daughter said my dad told me I do have rights but I also have responsibilitys the teacher said that she must have bad parents to say such things to her and she should be taken away from them . I told her to relax nobody I mean nobody is ever going to take you and your sister away from us. Long story short the next day I took both girls to the office happy to say one teacher in the unemployment line.
      • Bob 3 months ago
        CONGRATS
      • R H 3 months ago
        You can't see me or hear me, but believe me, I am cheering very loudly for you!!! :o)
      • storozkgolf 3 months ago
        Awesome
    • ROMAN  •  Kitchener, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      There is a difference between spanking & abusing your kids !
      • Sun King 3 months ago
        That, perhaps, is the crux of the entire discussion. Some parents have no business being parents.
    • bluemoca_1  •  Winnipeg, Manitoba  •  3 months ago
      I was spanked, and sometimes do spank my children. It isn't my first choice, but sometimes when a dangerous act has been committed several times even with removal of privileges, a spank drives home that there are real and serious consequences for certain acts. My kids don't walk around hitting people, nor do I. I can't say the same for some of the kids I know who have been raised with few and lesser consequences. Some of the "no spank" parents children are the ones bullying and pushing other kids around in the playground.
    • kevin  •  Edmonton, Alberta  •  3 months ago
      This is the most retarded article. Up untill a few years ago spanking a child was the norm. Millions of kids have ben spanked going back more then a hundred years. Now all kids will be better off? Please, if anything they think they can get away with more becasue i might take their phone or playstation away. I just wasted my time comenting
    • billie b  •  Saskatoon, Saskatchewan  •  3 months ago
      I remember being spanked once--and only once--by my father. that was enough. I like how they say "everyday" physical punishment; if you have to spank your child everyday, then clearly it is not working and you need to find alternate means of getting your point across. that or you are spanking for all the wrong reasons. Spanking your children as a form of discipline works, but should only be used as a last case scenario....not because your child refuses to eat his broccoli.
    • Margaret  •  3 months ago
      Propaganda. I think the message should be - it's ok to spank your child if all calm talk has failed with your wilful child, and he/she is doing that is dangerous to themselves or somebody else. I was occasionally spanked when I did something REALLY wrong. This research was done on kids who were spanked at least 2-times a month. I may have been spanked two times a year, and sometimes not at all. The shock of being spanked made me remember that I wasn't to do what I was doing. Moderation is key.
    • teenie772003  •  Toronto, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      what a load of crap! I recieved harsh punishments like spanking everyday for minor offences and I never grew up hitting or being agressive. What I did learn is the real world is tough and there is someone is always bigger and stronger than you so you better know your place... I think spanking in today's world is needed. The difference however is I don't spank my kids on minor offences or as a 1st method of punishment. The threat of a spanking should be enough by the age of 4.
    • Joe  •  Calgary, Alberta  •  3 months ago
      Here's the key phrase in the article: "the more often a child sees a parent respond to conflict or frustration with slapping or spanking".
      Spanking is a very effective form of discipline, but should never be done out of frustration or anger. Doing so will lead to an over reaction in the act of spanking causing more physical pain than necessary. The phenomenon that should be addressed is "self control" or lack thereof by parents when spanking their children.
      It is very possible (and indeed necessary) for parents to exercise self control when disciplining their children whether it's spanking or any other form of punishment. It is when the child sees their parent react out of frustration and anger that there are long term negative effects...no matter what type of punishment it is.
      It is easy to pick on "spanking" as the culprit for aggressive behavior but the researchers in this study missed the boat. If parents can discipline their kids with self control and be calm in thier actions, this will speak volumes to a child on how to deal with conflict.
    • Starfish  •  Burlington, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      I am not much of a spanker...I can say that I may have done this three or four times in my history as a parent, and my daughters are 14 and 10.

      In fact, I never thought much of it all, until my oldest daughter turned four, and ran into the street, narrowly avoiding being hit by a car....I didn't even think about it...I ran, grabbed her, hugged her, cried....and then spanked her bum. I was so terrified, all I could think of was that she NEVER DO THAT AGAIN.

      The difference between spanking and beating is INTENT. If you are just angry and frustrated, then spanking is out of line....if you are using a calculated measure to enforce the idea of how dangerous/wrong/disrespectful something is, it's a different story.

      The idea that spanking (in it's true sense) creates aggressive people is against common sense...the world gets more violent every day....yet...we now teach classes about how to avoid saying "no" to children so as not to "damage their spirit"...sigh.
    • Galaxia  •  Saint John, New Brunswick  •  3 months ago
      It is not about hitting or not hitting... it's about actually taking the time to parent your child. My parents hit me when I was bad but they also came to all my baseball and volleyball games, they nurtured my talents and hobbies and actually spent time with me and my siblings. Too many people are having kids who are too busy or lazy to actually take care of them and that is the problem. The screwed up kids are not the ones who are hit... it's the ones who are ignored or spoiled so the parents don't have to actually do their job as parents.
    • Jayfans  •  3 months ago
      This study is just one of many that you can take the results how you want. I think it really depends on the child. I knew of one child who did not respond to any kind of physical punishment, but confine him to his room for an hour and it worked wonders. Another friend of mine, who was kind of a deep thinker as a child, didn't care if he was on a time out- spanking worked though and both of these people are very well adjusted adults. I think good parents figure out what works and use it.
    • Johnny  •  Chatham-Kent, Ontario  •  3 months ago
      There should be a balance in spanking and rewarding. there's a difference between disciplining and child abuse. when a child is deserving of a reward, a reward should be given, however, a child should be disciplined for poor behaviour. I am in my mid 20s now and i have not heard of people of my generation disrespecting their parents like the children now. this new phenomenon that i will dub "shut up, mom!" seems to be the new trend in today's pre-teens to teens.. has anyone done any research on whether or not spanking might have taught them to be more respectful of their parents?

      I think spanking reminds ur children that they r still a child and need to respect their elders
    • MIKE  •  Kingston, New Brunswick  •  3 months ago
      This article is laughable......I was spanked and physically reprimanded my entire childhood and don't have violent tendencies or abusive traits. There is a BIG difference between spanking and abusing your child.
    • Sue  •  Halifax, Nova Scotia  •  3 months ago
      I am so sick and tired of hearing about parents who think that the right way to discipline their child is to be their friend, and NOT their parent. Kids with 'friends' are holy terrors. They are hateful and spoiled and know there will be no consequences for their actions, other than sitting in one spot for a few minutes. Kids with 'parents' who are no tafraid to be just that~~ THE PARENT, are kids who have respect for themselves, their family and the people in their surroundings. A swat on the butt has never killed a child, and shows them that bad behavior is something not tolerated. So many parents need to pull up their big kid undies and start doing their job, for the sake of their kids.
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