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    Sister Wives? Woman marries sister’s husband to honour her final request

    (Thinkstock)It could be a movie-of-the-week. Whether it’s a sappy tearjerker or a creepy drama is up for interpretation.

    On her deathbed, 42-year-old Jackie DeVita asked one thing of her sister, Colleen Leary: that she would take care of the family she was leaving behind. Jackie then handed Colleen her wedding ring.

    Three months after Jackie’s death, Colleen married Jackie’s widower, Richard DeVita, and moved into the DeVita’s 19,000-square-foot, $13.5 million ranch home to raise her sister’s three children.

    “I know we have her blessing.” Colleen told MSNBC. She now wears her sister’s wedding ring.

    The sisters were born just 50 weeks apart and were as inseparable as twins. When Jackie met her husband, Richard, both women were working in his dental office.

    "From the time Jackie and Richard met, we were constantly together, the three of us," Colleen, who remained single, said. "We hung out every week at the beach. I wasn't dating or anything, so I was always the tag-along, but I loved it because I knew Richard and I loved Jackie."


    Colleen’s commitment to her sister’s kids kept her close by during and after Jackie’s battle with a brain tumour. After Jackie died, Colleen grew uncomfortable with the idea of living under the same roof as her brother-in-law as a single woman. So she accepted Richard’s hand in marriage — with the full blessing of her father.

    Read the entire story here.

    It’s not a conventional to-the-altar story, but it kept a family together. And Colleen claims that a love story grew out of the tragedy.

    “I am happy. I loved this man as a boss, a brother-in-law, and now as a husband," Colleen said in the Associated Press article. "I always say to people, 'Was I in love with him? No. Do I love him now? Yes.' He's a good man.”

    While some friends disapproved of the arrangement, Colleen claims that Jackie’s kids “were excited” to have their aunt become their step-mom.

    Jezebel points out, “In other societies, people have been urged or even required to marry their dead spouse's sibling.”

    Maybe Jackie did know best, despite her difficult-to-process last wishes.

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    329 comments

    • Geep  •  6 months ago
      She was ready for death - she wasn't holding onto petty jealousy - she wanted love for all her remaining family. I hope to be that prepared when it is my time.
      • Franz-Paul 6 months ago
        B S
        Sounds more like a menage a trois !!!
      • Christian 6 months ago
        still happens..just saying!
    • kevin s  •  6 months ago
      ahhh How refreshing to read something that matters for a change-----no Kardashians or Lopezes.
      • dan 6 months ago
        i'm sure you find the whole thing refreshing. after all kardashians and lopezes are not white. your head needs a checkup.
      • FrayM 6 months ago
        DAN shut the heck up your head needs a checkup
      • Jen 6 months ago
        Dan, we dont actually know if this family is white either. But people are interested in it either way.
    • Navneet  •  6 months ago
      This is very common in many cultures - the focus is the kids. Your mother's sister is the closest thing to a mother and could actually fill the void the kids are feeling. Many people are calling this creepy ... but thats because you are thinking of it from a husband/wife standpoint ... in many cultures families put the children first.
    • pmms  •  6 months ago
      "From the time Jackie and Richard met, we were constantly together, the three of us," Colleen, who remained single, said. "We hung out every week at the beach. I wasn't dating or anything, so I was always the tag-along, but I loved it because I knew Richard and I loved Jackie."

      Okay so now these people are all in their 40's and the sister is still part of the couple? The sister remained single allllllll these years hanging around as the third wheel. There is a lot more to this story, it's not fate, love or sweet. To marry three months after the death of a spouse and to drop this on the kids. It doesn't matter if she is the aunt and someone they love. This couple has interefered in the natural process of grieving for these kids and trying to gloss it over and make it pretty with a "new mommy" to replace the dead one, I don't think is fair and it will come back on them. And the fact that this couple has gone so public shows they are desperately trying to justify themselves and make everyone believe it was a miracle, a selfish act of love, fate, joy, or at least the sister is. I think this sister was very very deep within this couple's marriage and lives from day one and was just able to walk in and fill her sister's shoes and bed. I don't believe the dying sister asked her to marry her husband and if she did it was because she was dying and probably loaded with drugs too. There is more to this story than the pretty picture they are trying to push.
      • Robert Miller 6 months ago
        Try not judging!
      • D 6 months ago
        Pmms .... You are too negative and suspecting. I'm sure your own life is the same. Instead of looking for the ugly reasons they did this, try thinking of the beautiful reasons they did this. Since you were not at her sister's bedside when she died, I don't think you can (or have the right to) speculate on how 'dark' this looks to you. This 'darkness' that YOU perceive is merely a reflection of your own life. Don't try to smear it off on someone that is happy, just because you aren't. It makes you sound/appear petty and mean, not to mention the fact that it also makes you appear/sound jealous. I hope you don't spread this 'darkness' around everywhere you go, it would certainly keep me, and people in general, from wanting to even know you (as it does now). Do us all a favor and go sling your negativity elsewhere. Or perhaps you could just try being a little more positive about things? It must be very depressing to live in your world, where you trust no one and believe nothing, except that there's something bad about everything. Lighten up, or go roll one up - that should help you see the lighter side of things ;)
      • pmms 6 months ago
        For D: You sound like the typical airhead trying to sound above all of what I said but you showed your true self by what you wrote. People like you try to sound intelligent and "mystically" wise but end of disclsing their own secrets or flaws. Read what you wrote again, typical airhead. I bet you dye your hair a blonde too, your kind are an epidemic of today sadly. You probably believe that pedophiles can be rehabbed if we just could understand better and you probably are against the death penalty because you are much better than that and you probably believe the world truly could be a sunny warm place with rainbows and fuzzy kittens and we should all hold hands and sing kumbiya. And then your answer is drug use, wow, you truly are special just like your mother said or maybe you have a drug addiction problem that has caused brain damage and you are delusional, typical airhead.
    • Mariiiiie  •  6 months ago
      Should something happen to me, I know my sister would look after my family. But sleep with my husband??!? Come on! He must have been sleeping with her before she died.
      • A Yahoo! User 6 months ago
        Of course "menage a troi" ! Why the sister has "sacrifice" herself so many years being alone?
    • Tato  •  6 months ago
      I would like to see some pictures..
    • theor  •  6 months ago
      I could not dream of doing it or even that with my sister in law however it is or was quite a common practice in history. It does keep the family together though. Not sure I would even ask one of my brothers to do that I guess that would be up to him and my wife. Would I mind if it happened, not as long as I was dead " untill death do us part ". Hope that it works out sounds like it does have a good chance.
    • ..  •  6 months ago
      $13000000 house + no need to work for life.......wow!
    • Munirah  •  6 months ago
      take care of my family is not an unusual thing for a dying person to say to her sister...according to this article she never asked her to marry her husband that was her own choice
    • golfcalling  •  6 months ago
      i'm sure auntie mommy will do just great !! explain that one to the kids.
    • Chillguy77  •  6 months ago
      My brother made the same request of me. He's isn't dying or anything but he said if something were to happen to him he'd want me to step in and take care of his family. And he meant it the same way as these people in the article. I don't see anything weird about it whatsoever.
    • dalvis  •  6 months ago
      If the kids are happy, I wish you all the best.
    • A Yahoo! User  •  6 months ago
      if she was sure that it would be ok wiht both her husband and sister it was a reason for that. i don't think her husband would have just done what she asked him if he didn't want it. i don't like it.
    • Pete  •  6 months ago
      Coming this fall to TLC....
    • Yvonne  •  6 months ago
      why did they say '50 weeks' instead of 10 months.
    • say what?  •  6 months ago
      Nothing shocking about this. This type of thing has been going on for hundreds of years.
    • christie b  •  6 months ago
      I don`t see how "take care of my family" equals "marry my husband," but sure.

      Weird.
    • penny  •  6 months ago
      It is a very nice arrangement for the children, their mom is happy!
    • Samantha  •  6 months ago
      so "taking care of my family" translates to "marry my husband", oh ok.

      She stayed single all those years, probably had a crush on the husband too. One cant help but to think there was some type of envy or jealousy towards the deceased sister all this time.

      Hey, my mind might be twisted, but they opened up their story to the media so it's subjected to some criticism and judgement. Oh well, as long as the kids are happy....
    • Def Rolance  •  6 months ago
      This is a great story. All the best to them. So happy for the children, as well.
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