Does it matter to you if your friends think your partner is attractive?
As the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But could our standards of what is attractive be less influenced by our personal preferences than by what is considered attractive to those who surround us?
In a recent Jezebel piece, Hugo Schwyzer writes:
…it's not that all men — or even most straight white men — genuinely prefer skinny women. It's that for a great many men, having a thin, conventionally pretty girlfriend is a way to win status in the eyes of other men. It's not actually about what they themselves want. Put simply, men and women alike confuse what it is that men are attracted to with what it is that men imagine will win them approval.
Our culture may very well dictate whom we find attractive; consider how very different the wives of Manhattan millionaires look from the wives of Zulu kings.Read More »from Are we more attracted to those that others find attractive?