A New—Surprising—Relationship Predictor

i thot nerds like scientist cant get a date in the prom? lol how would they make the public believe what they say here? :P

My mother always told us (my brother included) that the only way to make a marriage truly successful is to set aside your pride, your ego, and your own needs and consider your spouse, marry someone becuase you love them and not because they have an abundance of worldly possessions, allow your spouse to be your best friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable in their arms. If they truly love you they'll treat you with gentleness and care, and they will reciprocate what you have given.

If you love something let it go, if it comes back it is yours, if not it never was.

Yeah, Madonna is still attractive and I still think about Blondie from the 80's .. Maybe Sharon Stone and Shirley Manson time to time also ..

**** me.

In the 'olden days', like... before 1960 in the western world, divorce was frowned upon and was socially stigmatizing. Many couples that were miserable or abusive STAYED together because in their minds there was the 'you're married for life' ideal. Add kids to that, and you've got a lifetime of marital pain.
I understand that there is value to people having the mindset of staying married 'forever', but the reality is that many marriages were not made in heaven to start out, and STAYING married because you just 'should', or divorce 'wasn't an option', is not honourable, but unhealthy.
Especially marriages that held together only 'because of the kids'. Those marriages are usually unhappy and THE KIDS CAN TELL and they're hurting because of it.

this article would not work with drama queens

I agree the points on the article; My husband and I offen argued with eath other,but we love each other;
there is a habit for me,we could not qurral over night; we should say hello before sleeping;

Communication, intimacy, respect and love. Even fighting is part of communication, intimacy, respect and love. You need to keep these things in mind all the time. Always keep talking - both people involved, keep the intimacy of your arguments, so you don't turn family and friends against your spouse (as long as the arguments are normal and not abusive), respect each other during disagreements, never resort to name calling, personal insults and bringing up past arguments (If an apology has been given and accepted or an agreement has been made, they are off limits) and finally remember this is the person you married and chose to be with, this means you choose to love them everyday, for better or worse. These four points are what keeps my husband and I going and we remind each other of them as required.

Another interesting find: marriages are more likely to last when the man and woman enter into it thinking the marriage is forever.

This mentality is awesome but near impossible to achieve with future generations. Look at the media and how they view marriage and relationships... JERSEY SHORE.
Hope there are a few sane people out there with an ounce of respect and dignity for their significant other.

If you come home after a very long and hard day at work and you ask your girlfriend to strip and get it on and she oblige with out a fight she is a keeper for life lol.

Put kids into the scenerio then all bets are off!

Yes Communication is key, but there is far more to it than that. Open non judgmental communication. Sex is the single most important part of a relationship and most are afraid to say it. It is the one thing that differentiates this relationship from all others. When we date we plan for it, when we move in or get married we stop planning for it and take it for granted. We must continue to plan for it!! You can to educate yourselves to be better lover and take couples courses. You must be willing to explore each others fantasies even if you have to step outside your box for your partner. If you are not willing to do that, your partner may just step outside your relationship... None of this happens without good communication.

Communication , level playing field and respect..are the secret to lasting relationship. Silence , no comment, one sided henpecking with no fighting or even a whisper of objection... may seem to be a marriage made in heaven, but really, it hides a slow ticking bomb, with a partner or both checking out possible new mates to move on, then wam,
she \ he is working late or going out of town for "business", and then the shoe drops
and you're left with just your socks and an empty bank account. if you're the one who gave up your career for a marriage, you're now too out of date with no career at all.
That being said, most times the woman is told by the man to quit work, because he has the money to look after her. BIG MISTAKE, because when he leaves, you're too old to start all over again, even if it is 3 years out of work as a Chartered Accountant.

well my wife and i have been married a year now and together for 5 years and everything is the same. We argue abit. but we always have. Life has changed over the 5 years but were still the same type of people and love each other deerly. We have always understood each other and no each others weekness and stress and excpected each other the day we were married and are goal is to beat the odds.

My husband and I have been married almost 20 years, and I have to say we get along wayyyyyy
better now than we used to. We know what buttons NOT to push and we pray often:)

Re: Expectation -No you should not expect everything from each other...that's hollywood mumbo jumbo...you should expect to encounter a human being with strengths and faults...expect only of yourself...expect to care for them...love them...sacrifice for them...encourage them...all the while never losing site of your centre...if you do this you will have led a "good" life regardless of what the other person does...most people are too self centred to understand what I am saying...but I know it to be true...too many people focus on their own "needs"...get over yourselves...and love somebody before its too late~

When Sarah Jessica Parker's character is getting advise from Sam Elliot's character in "Did you hear about the Morgans," she says referring to Hugh Grant's character (her movie husband), "We shouldn't expect anything from each other," Sam says that's the biggest b/s, "We should expect everything from each other." I thought and I still think that's the best piece of advise.

The title of the article is "Surprising New Relationship Predictor". I've read nothing surprising nor new here. There's no way to predict relationship outcomes anyway - life happens, people change, etc.

Women forget how to love thier man an care about them over time.That why alot of them run or look for something new.also the same for men.